This time around in my trip to Indore I discovered a new perspective towards my relationship with my parents.
You see, if your parents and you are anything like me and mine, with me being a single child, having an almost 40 year age gap and a janky wonderful relationship - this might resonate with you.
I discovered that the best way to approach things with them might be to look at them like my kids.
Everything falls into place.
You might not want to call up and check in on your parents everyday (not coz you don’t love them, but just that that’s the way you are) but if you ever had kids, you’d always call them - every single day.
When your kids make a fuss or fight about something, or express their feelings in rather different ways, it would be easier for you to look at it through the lens of empathy and transitoryness.
You’d always love your kids unconditionally and have a loving listening attitude towards them, trying to talk and understand - right?
I beleive that’s exactly how one has to approach a relationship with their parents. It’s the same actually.
My Dadi used to say - “Bacche boodhre ek samaan”
Now I realise it, as your parents get old, they do become like your children and that’s often a great perspective to approach the relationship forward with them.
It’s also beautiful in the cycle of life, both of you get to be each other’s kids and recieve and share love in the wonderful ways that are unique to being a kid and a parent.
So, will you look at life and your mummy papa with this new lens?
If you do, make sure to tell me how it goes at hey@namanhajela.com
Have a great day ahead!
much love. nmn.