Almost never is it gonna be useful to stay in a position of misalignment with the choices that you’ve yourself made.
It’s important to remind ourselves of two important things:
- We can, always, make newer choices based on newer information. We’re not prisoners to the sunk cost fallacy.
- It’s more important to make peace with your choices, than to make the right choices.
Coz a lot of times the tension in making the first, or secondary fixing choices is what comes with the weight of choosing the ‘right’ one.
Frankly, there’s no ‘right’ choice. You’ll never really know until you truly try.
Yes you can use excel sheets, yes your awareness will help a lot, and should guide you. But the truth is: All the variables of any situation never reveal themselves before you put yourself in it. If they did, it wouldn’t be challenging, and you wouldn’t be stressing out over it anyways. You would’ve already made the choice.
It’s about making it our choices right.
Acceptance, i.e. making peace with them is one big part of that journey. It makes everything easier, and allows you to fix the smaller parts that don’t align with you.
Let’s say you move to a new city and that this is a very informed decision. But you find that in this new city, new job, your manager is very crappy, the work culture is bad, and where you live is not the most positive neighbourhood.
Then what?
What’re you gonna do?
Wanna shift back - well you always can. Don’t worry about what people would say, this is your life - and time is not unlimited. If you can’t - then it’s best to make peace with it. Don’t fret over it.
What else can you do?
Can you get a new place - yes sure yes! Can you get a transfer to another department - probably!
So start working on it, and while you do, don’t fret over being here in this situation. Don’t fret over the past of how a fool you were to make this decision and you should’ve seen it coming.
The truth is that that past is gone, you only have what’s ahead, and only truly have this moment.
And ‘this moment’ is one worth living with peace, not with regret, not at all with worry.
You got this!
*There are no right choices, just choices, keep making them based on what you decide is best for you. If it doesn’t work, make more of them. But at all times, be at peace with whatever you choose - because that’s what’s truly the ‘right’ thing to do :) *