Be it spirituality, happiness or many more such things.
I’ve realized that they’re not something to be achieved, they’re more like a lifestyle you adopt, a identity/perspective/worldview/mindset that you practice and live in accordance with.
When you pay focus and attention towards your relationship with yourself and work towards improving it - that’s spirituality.
When you see happiness as just a choice and work towards choosing happiness every day and every moment, when you fall in love with the surprises the universe throws at you, (ref), when you continue to do that, you experience happiness.
The day you stop, is the day you start loosing it.
It has some inertia, so it won’t go away all at once, but I guess that’s a double edged sword.
That inertia makes us feel like as if it was something to be achieved, as things which are achieved never go away, but this one seems like it will never - trust me, it will.
I and Kabir have often fallen into the loop of taking care of ourselves, doing good things, living in alignment which led to solving problems or just being happier, and then stopping doing the very things that took us there, only to repeat the loop a few weeks later.
So, remember. Building a good relationship with yourself is a daily task, a practice, not something you can achieve.
Being happy is a practice, not something you can achieve, but one that you can work towards every single day.